i feel like gossip wouldn’t be such a bad thing if it weren’t framed in such a negative context??
i mean, essentially it’s wanting to know what’s going on w people, because you are interested in their lives
i mean maybe sometimes there is a bit of schadenfreude mixed in there sometimes, but i feel like all the negativity and judgement mostly stems from the actual attitudes around it
because if we didn’t feel like it was some ~cool thing we aren’t supposed to know~ there wouldn’t be that kind of guilt associated and then maybe we wouldn’t be so judgmental and unpleasant about stuff??
like, i mean yeah, if you always update your facebook relationship status, i am going to pay attention and want to know what went on, but that is because i think you are interesting and your life is interesting and i wanna know stuff about you, i mean damn though, i can’t ask people about it because then it gets all rude and secretive and judgmental because they think i wanna know some big gossipy secret